When it comes to EFT, most of us would expect that tapping is best for adults. Besides, they’re the ones who have to deal with all the bottled trauma over the years.
However, boys and girls of all ages go through a lot from day-to-day and this is why I also recommend trying tapping with children.
I’ve been pretty open with how EFT has helped me cope with all the anxiety and stress that I went through after my divorce. I’ve also stated before that what really got to me was my realization on how my negative energy may be affecting my daughter.
With children, we always need to be aware of how we act around them and how we react to their stories and problems. While it may seem trivial to us adults, their thoughts, feelings, and experiences are something that they carry with them growing up. These are the crucial years — the age wherein they shape their perception of the world and themselves.
It only makes sense that they also need to release the negative emotions that they’re holding on to.
Why try tapping with children?
How do you even start tapping with children? Kids are known for their tendency to not sit still. Others might even feel silly tapping at random spots in their body.
However, what makes EFT easier with kids is the fact that they’re intuitive. You’ll be surprised at how open-minded they can be when it comes to trying new things — tapping included.
Easing them into EFT
Introduce them to tapping by talking to them first. Ask them about their day and how they’re feeling. From there, you’ll be able to categorize what you should focus on when tapping with children.
Tapping for a specific emotion
These are the times when they say “I’m mad at my brother.” or “I hate going to school.” Because kids are sensitive and perceptive of their surroundings, make sure that you are in a calm and approachable manner when asking them.
Don’t demand them to tell you their problems, even when you’re acting out of frustration that they won’t open up. This will only further shut them down. Learn how to sit down and wait until they’re ready before you start tapping with your child.
Once they open up outright about what they’re feeling, ask them to rank this emotion from 1 to 10 and take a deep breath before proceeding to the whole process. You can simply talk it out while going through all the tapping points. This way, you’re letting the child release all the bottled feelings.
When you two are done, ask them to rank the emotion again and you’ll be surprised at how it has drastically lessened after a single session.
Tapping for a specific event
Pay attention to them when it comes to this. Particular situations, especially ones they subconsciously perceive as traumatic ones, are memories that they’re going to carry with them into adulthood. This can be one of the major factors that will shape them growing up.
One way to help them talk more about a specific experience is to speak in their language and be on the same page. Never disregard their feelings and say “You’ll be graduating in a few months’ time. Your classmate calling you a loser wouldn’t matter anymore when you’re in high school.” In reality, it does matter because this is how they currently perceive their world.
To begin tapping with your child, ask them to expound on the event. At first, they’ll only talk about the specifics of what happened. Ask them what they feel about the incident. For example, she failed a specific quiz. Is she upset? Go further. Why is she feeling upset? Maybe she’s disappointed in herself and feels stupid for not acing a subject. Maybe she’s scared of being made fun of by classmates. Rate the emotional impact of this encounter from 1 to 10.
From there, start tapping on the karate chop as you two work on the set-up statement: “Even though I failed the quiz, I still believe in myself and accept myself.” This is just an example but always start with the issue then following it with an affirmation.
Tap with your children through all the other points and say the phrases that are connected to the issue. (Example: “I failed the test” / “I hate myself for failing.” / “I feel stupid.”) Go through a few rounds of tapping with your child and once again, ask them how they are feeling and to rate their emotions after the session.
Tapping for a physical condition
Tapping is a great practice for your children as it helps them acknowledge their feelings. While they won’t really know how to define anxiety, they do tend to somatize their emotions.
This means that their problems will make itself apparent through physical symptoms and sometimes, a child crying about stomach ache might be under a huge amount of stress. With EFT and the act of simply acknowledging what they’re feeling through tapping statements, they’ll feel like they’re being heard.
Start by tapping with children on the place where they’re feeling the symptoms. From there, look for clues that it might be rooted in a deeper emotion. You may start with “This feeling in my head.” then eventually progress to the emotions they feel about the headache “ even though I feel so angry because I have this headache.”
Once you’ve finished addressing the physical symptoms, go for an affirmative phrase. Something like “Even though my head hurts, I choose to relax and let go.”