As mothers, we always make sure to shower our kids with love and affection. We serve as the light of our home and stand strong as our child’s support system.
…But have you showered yourself with love and affection in the past week?
For us moms, taking a breather can sometimes inspire a little bit of guilt. You may be thinking, “Do I even deserve a break when I can be using this time to nurture my kids?”
I completely understand. I feel that the moment you became a mother, you didn’t just bring a new life to the world. It’s also the day you dropped all sense of selfishness, all in favor of giving your child a great life.
But I don’t think this means that you should just forget about yourself, especially when it comes to your emotional health.
Think about it — how can you continue focusing on your child if the time comes when you start to buckle under all the stress and overwhelm?
With EFT tapping, you can start dealing with these emotions and gradually release them for a happier life — both as a parent and as an individual.
So how do you go about this? Well, it may be a struggle for some but I recommend digging deep into what bothers you about motherhood.
Forget all the guilt, all the hesitation that comes with that thought. This moment is all about you tapping deeper into yourself and dealing with what needs attention and healing.
Before the session, measure how intense you’re feeling right now. This will be an important factor in determining how effective this EFT tapping session will be.
To give you a starting point, we listed down a few tapping scripts if you’re still at a loss on what to say:
Tapping scripts to get you started:
- Even though I cannot always be everything to everyone, I know that I am doing the best that I can.
- Even though I sometimes doubt my capabilities as a mother, I accept my feelings and I deeply and completely love and accept myself.
- Even though I feel like I’m a bad parent, I know that I am trying to be a great mother to my child and I completely love and accept myself.
- Even though I sometimes cannot contain my anger at my child, and this makes me doubt if I truly am a good mother, I believe that I am trying all that I can to be patient and I accept myself and my capabilities.
- Even though I am dealing with constant pressure brought on by motherhood, I deeply and completely love myself.
- Even though my kids can be a handful, I know that I am doing the best I can to be patient and I accept my feelings and myself.
After starting with one of these scripts as you tap on your karate chop (middle of your hand’s outer side), proceed to the other points. If you’re new to tapping, you can read this guide I wrote before.
At this point, you set up a reminder phrase or another tapping phrase that is a shorter version of your initial problem. Here are a few samples to give you an idea on what your reminder phrase should sound like:
- I’m not sure I’m a good mother
- I feel like I’m not raising my child well
- I’m already at my limit
- I have a hard time controlling my temper
- I’m worried that I won’t be able to give my child a good future
- I don’t think I can take it anymore
You don’t have to stick to the ones above. Your reminder phrases should be related to the initial issue and to what you’re exactly feeling.
Use these sentences as you go through all the other tapping points, starting at the top of your head, and continue through all the tapping points.
At the end of your session, compare the status of your feelings to its intensity when you started. If you’re not satisfied, feel free to go through another round. The goal is for the level to be substantially lower.
I hope this quick guide on eft for moms will be helpful. Setting up a regular EFT tapping session can be a great self-care practice amidst all the daily chores and tutorial sessions with your children. At the end of the day, know that you’re doing the best that you can.